14 Popular Excuses Men Give To Avoid Condom


    According to a recent research, 8 out of 10 Nigerian men do not
    use condoms. This was revealed by Bright Ekweremadu, the Managing Director of Society for Family Health, SFH. He said over 1.8billion sexual activities occur in
    Nigeria yearly, and 80% of them are unprotected.

    Mr Bright added that if Nigerian men were to use condoms, no supplier in the world would be able to afford the quantity of
    condoms they would need. *clears throat*
    like, really? Is that how much our brothers love to have sex?

Anyways, old news. If you’re a Nigerian woman, you already knew that.
But you also know that no matter how charming a guy is or how rich or how sexy, your health should be your first concern
when it comes to your sex life. You’d think many females know this but it so happens
that even the best of us get carried away by the moment.

Women have allowed men who use certain tactics and manner of speaking to dissuade from having protected sex. And that’s just
plain irresponsible in this present time when diseases like gonorrhoea are mutating or when people can get cervical cancer from HPV viruses.

Below are some of the excuses and tactics men use to avoid condoms.
They may sound like basic excuses but they have worked so well and are still working
for many womenfolk.

1. Intense Foreplay: He gets you in the mood, touches the right buttons, uses his tongue in places on your body you didn’t even know existed and all you can think of is going all the way. You want the full package badly; you can’t wait to do it and you throw caution to the wind. This is an old tactic men use. Be wary of it.

2. Just The Tip: This is one of the funniest I’ve heard and had personal experience with
in the past. The guy goes “baby, just the tip; I’m not going in, I swear.”
If you’re not going in, then what are you doing at the door. Smh. Please tell him to dress his little man up even if he’s just going to hang by the door.

3. ‘I am clean; you are clean’ Excuse: I really don’t know what ‘clean’ means but Nigerian men use that word a lot. I’m thinking it means he is disease-free and
she is disease-free and thus why bother about protection? This is a very vague excuse. Guys that use this don’t want to be
upfront about their health status because they are not sure they are really ‘clean’.

4. ‘I’ve been tested already Excuse’: Just like the above, he uses this to let you
know he is safe but here, he is bold enough to tell you that he has gone and done the test already and he is guaranteed to be disease-free. Sister, run from this particular guy. He’s even worse than the one above.

5. Emotional Blackmail: ‘So baby, you
don’t trust me?’ That’s a classic line. Or he just starts sulking when you insist on a condom. Using these emotional tactics,
he aims to bully you into parting your legs for him without any form of protection. What a dick!

6. Telling You You’re Too Sexy, He can’t Wait: Ah. the sweet-talker with the sugar-coated tongue. He’ll probably tell you that you’re the most beautiful woman he’s ever been with. Yimu. All na for mouth.
Don’t be fooled.

7. It Feels Better Skin to Skin: Of course it does feel better skin to skin. Everyone knows that; you don’t need a man reminding you. Also watch out for words from him that
describe how “sweet” his penis is and he wants you to have the full experience and a condom will stop pleasure. Tell him
sex is beyond the penetration; remind him of foreplay. Also add that he will
last longer if he uses the condom but first he should take his time with you during foreplay so you can get there at the same pace as he.

8. Birth Control is the Woman’s Priority. If a man tells you this, he is simply telling you that if anything happens in the future, he won’t be held culpable. To him, his job is
to have sex and ejaculate inside you; it’s your job to deal with the messy aspect afterwards.

9. ‘I won’t cum inside you’ Excuse: Heard that line before? Yeah, many guys use it. “Don’t worry baby; I’ll withdraw before I
cum” And that is how many women are now mothers with that excuse. The same guy,
after shooting off his load inside a woman will tell her she was too sexy and so he couldn’t help himself. Ladies, don’t be
deceived. Yes, many guys can control it and they’re experts at it but sometimes…just
sometimes… they can’t help it.

10. Lying on Top of you During Foreplay: Another old trick here. He takes full control
and his fingers work your genitals and you’re in cloud nine and… oops! His fingers have been replaced by something else and he’s
inside! You complain (weakly) and he hushes you and tells you to just go with the
flow. Smooth operator.

11. ‘I’m allergic to condoms’ Excuse: This is new. But I have heard it from my friends on two occasions. Maybe it was the same guy (I’ll have to ask). well, I thought I should add it here. Certainly, there are some people who are allergic to latex found in condoms
and get adverse reactions to it but the percentage is really low. In short such people
are hard to find. But why do I have a feeling that their number will soon increase in Naija?

12. ‘I’ll Marry you’ Excuse: Smh. If you believe this phrase then you believe anything.

13. ‘My size is not in the market’
Excuse: This guy’s peen is usually very big or small or narrow. Hence, he gives excuses why he shouldn’t use a condom. Don’t believe his
lying ass.

14. Direct Request: Now some guys will just tell you flat-out, with the straightest of faces that they ain’t down with condoms and they are not going to have sex with you wearing one. They will also add that they don’t use condoms at all and give you this
expression like they don’t give an ish what you think. It’s either their way or the highway. Go ahead and hurl their asses
out the door. In conclusion, simply stamp it in your mind that sex is not all about pleasure. If it was, then none of us would be here in this world.

The only reason you’re in existence, reading this, is because your parents chose to have sex without protection some years ago. But some people didn’t even get that lucky.
While others got knocked up, they got knocked down dead by diseases,especially HIV. There are also other STDs that
affect women of which men are carriers alone. You will do yourself well to protect
against them.

The wise woman of this age carries a condom around. She takes full responsibility for her sex life and health. She also knows how to say NO when the sex will not favor her. Please, don’t dull. Be part of the
change that alters the statistic I put above. Jokes apart, whether Nigerian men are good in bed or not, 8 out of 10 going unprotected is nothing to smile about.

PLAY SAFE!!!

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Poem | Blaming The Flames


    It was a sunny night
    The nights sun was shinning white
    The breeze was a cheetah
    And everyone laughed at the banters

    Suddenly, the sounds were revolving
    Hard, strong, and could go miles
    People were shouting and running
    They say, it is the men from the forests

    They had masks on, black ones
    Guns to slaughter men with strong souls
    They spoke the same language
    But still were ready to throw their own people into the garbage

    They finally succeeded, took our girls away
    They sacrificed some at their points of merry
    Others were at their sacred meeting point
    While some were just walking by

    Questions asked, answers not given
    Till today, some say they are on their way
    Others say, its a blame game
    But I say, We. Are Smelling a War Game.

Poem Analysis!
I really like to analyse my poems so that non poets can understand what message am passing on.
This is a poem about the current insurgency in Northern Nigeria by the islamist sect Boko Haram. It tells a story from an Omniscient perspective about what the effect of the group has caused the region.

In Stanza 1 the writer tells us about the peaceful serenity of the north, men chatting at night and everyone in a cool calm serene until…….

Stanza 2 heralds the arrival of the sect as the writer describes them as “Men from the forests” in relation the the sects popular base, the Sambisa forest. The panic the people witness on announcement of the arrival of the sect by releasing bombs and so on is also portrayed

    “They had masks on, black ones
    Guns to slaughter men with strong souls
    They spoke the same language
    But they are willing to throw their own people into the garbage”

In stanza 3 above, the writer tries to describe the differences that’s tearing apart people of The same ethic background as he says in the last line

    “But they are willing to throw their own people into the garbage”

Which means they are willing to kill there own

In stanza 4 he talks about the modus operandi and successful operations of the sect in recent times from bombing public places to the popular kidnap of school girls. Finally, in the last stanza, he takes a hint at efforts of the people, government and himself to secure peace.

    “Till today, some say they are on their way
    Others say, its a blame game
    But I say, We. Are Smelling a War Game.”

The people say they are on their way again to kill more, and are protesting out of insecurity
Others refers to the government who has taken party incentives to blame one another for the crises, but they truth is, a war is looming north!!!

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A Moment worth a lifetime


Hi,

hope you all have been in great shape
and doing well……

I have been busy in the past couple of
days…..
joined my new company……
there were loads of formalities……
finally most of them are over and
training has begun……

the environment seems to be peaceful
in this organization……not expecting
much…..

there have been loads of
developments in the past couple of
weeks…..

the institute where I attend
classes…….there are many
classmates……one of them is Neha…….

at first I did not gave any attention
to her…..but then things changed
between us……

we went out a couple of times……it all
started when we went together for
the interviews together……

that day I realized that it was
something more then being
friends…….things went smoothly that
day……we attended two interviews
each…..

we had a walk together after the
interviews……we were next each other
all day long……and I realized we could
talk with each other without saying
anything…..

then we went out for interviews
again…….and after another successful
day……we went to connaught place…..it
was a fabulous day…..

but the things in my case can never go
smoothly……..I bought some chocolates
for her…..and god they were
expensive……I had to use my credit
card….

they were nicely wrapped and
packed……..and then I presented them
to her……
she refused to take them……..I tried
to reason with her……she didn’t
listened……

she started to walk towards the
metro……I held her hand…….she
snatched it away…..

I was dumb-stuck for a minute…….and
by this time she went inside the metro
she had to take back home…..

I took a deep breath and ran for
her……but the doors were closed and
the train was on the platform……

I went in front of the window where
she was standing……..she was typing an
apology text to me……..
she didn’t saw me standing there with
those chocolates……but the girl in
front of her and other ladies in the
reserved compartment for ladies were
watching me……

I pointed to the girl in front of her to
call her…….and she called her for
me…….
she looked up and saw me…….and she
was a beautiful shade of pink…….she
looked so beautiful………and I think
other ladies had an expression of
“awww” on their faces…….
it was a moment……I can never
forget……
and I think I will never forget…..
but the scene did not end here……
the train moved……and I felt that it
was not right…….
I called her……she answered…….
I told her to get down at the next
station and give me two minutes……she
refused……
by this time the next train had
arrived…..and the doors were about to
close…….
so i had to stick my foot into the
doors to get them open again…….
there was a girl in front of the door
watching me……..I still had those
chocolates in my hand…..
I thought that the one for whom i
have bought them does not care about
them……and here is this girl craving…..
I think I could have easily exchanged
her phone number……then and there…..
but, as it was me……..I will continue my
pursuit…….
then went on a series of phone calls
and text messages……..she kept
refusing……I kept asking…….
I felt hungry in between……so I ate
some of those chocolates too……….
and finally she stopped…….and
accepted to eat one……but not carry
all of them……
I took the deal…..
and then she was smiling like
hell…….and she was happy……and I felt
what I have done…….and felt
embarrassed…….
she was swept off her feet……and
after this she walked ahead…….she did
not looked back……
and I went on to the platform to
catch the metro back……and I realized
she was on the
escalators…..distant…..but not enough
that I could not recognize her……
she was watching me……in the crowd
her eyes were set on me……
and at that very moment I realized
that…..this was worth it…….
every ounce of it………
who knows the future…….I made the
day perfect…….a moment to
remember……..a moment worth 1000
days……….a moment worth a
lifetime…….

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“Once Upon A Night”


Once upon a Night,
I was seating with the old knight
He had just arrived from the battle
And he’s body was filled with mantle

I started talking with speed,
He was rather not ready to talk about the creed
My own heart was pumping with anxiety
His was just asleep with amnesty

A man filled with cold blood on his hands
And an innocent teenager with no hands
He could sing the melody of gunshots
But all I knew was mere child’s plays

He had seen corruption at its highest levels
I only knew about was missing pennies
He fears what the country has to offer him
But I fear what I had to offer the country

We were told We were the leaders of tomorrow
Has tomorrow not arrived yet?
Why are there still retired men of the knights
Ruling and dictating our own human rights?

For when tomorrow comes, Wake me up
Maybe I can change them from bottom to top
But until then
I walk and work only to serve God and be in heaven.

Poem Analysis:
This is a satirical poem written by @peterhaloway In the poem, he ridicules the current political system in Nigeria (1999-till date) he sees it as one controlled by only a few sect of people.
The Old Knight is this poem refers to retired soldiers of the Nigerian Army who had already been awarded high ranks, this he expresses in line 4

“And he’s body was filled with mantle”

In stanza 2, the poet persona wants to know a lot about what brought the downfall of his country, but he knowing the truth wasn’t ready to speak.

“A man filled with cold blood on his hands
And an innocent teenager with no hands
He could sing the melody of gunshots
But all I knew was mere child’s plays”

Here, the coup d’art’s that brought him and many of his colleagues into power is shown. During 1966-1999 there were series of Military coup d’art that brought several military rulers into office.

“He had seen corruption at its highest levels
I only knew about was missing pennies
He fears what the country has to offer him
But I fear what I had to offer the country”

During the military regimes, there was serious and inevitable corruption amongst the various rulers that took turns through coup d’art’s. Here he reveals it as the Old Knight had seen corruption in his highest levels, whereas, the boy was a poverty stricken boy who found it had to feed on pennies.

In line 15,
“He fears what the country has to offer him”
He looks at the greed that’s still in the hearts of the military rulers who ruled then under one province or the other and still want to get into government after they’ve retired. Amongest a few who were military men and are still active in government practices are; Sen. David Mark (Senate President), Ibrahim Badamosi Babangida (President 1985-1993), Muhammed Buhari (President 1982-1985) and a host of others. Just in the 2011 Presidential elections, Muhammed Buhari was the candidate of CPC (Now in APC) and he’s still showing interest in the “War of Valentines day 2015”.
The boy in return is afraid if he can still contribute a quota into the society since these Knights won’t just retire. This he expresses in lines 17-20,

“We were told We were the leaders of tomorrow
Has tomorrow not arrived yet?
Why are there still retired men of the knights
Ruling and dictating our own human rights?”

Finally, he his left to live by his faith, since he is powerless, but he hopes if he can get the chance, he can change things from bottom to top.

” For when tomorrow comes, Wake me up
Maybe I can change them from bottom to top
But until then
I walk and work only to serve God and be in heaven.

In line 22, he puts religion over everything and believes even with all the mishaps, he will serve God and hope to have eternal peace in heaven.

Thanks for taking time to read my poem, I hope you loved it. If you do, just leave a comment below. Takia and come back for more.

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The Prince without a King


There once lived a Prince without a King
not in a distant land or far far away.
But in the cities, towns and villages
of modern day society.
The King walked away from the palace, never to return.

The Queen was broken hearted
not for herself, but for the Prince
that would never be a man.
She could teach him many things
except for how to be a king.

The Prince would see his mother cry
and told her everything would be alright.
He would excuse the absence of his father
finding peace within himself.

Using no strength or emotion
on bitterness or hate, that would not change a single thing.

He would hunt with his uncle
learn a work ethic from his brother.
He gained knowledge from his teacher
and power from his preacher.

Every girl was a princess
and he would treat them with respect.
He grew up without his father
but he would become his own man.

On the day he would have taken over
a message he would receive.
“I am sorry you grew up without a father
and now you will never be a King.
And to this he would reply”

“But I am a Prince, a man of my people.
I have earned their love and respect.
I honor thy mother and thy bride
I break bread with my brother.
and there is peace inside of me.”

But more than anything, I have no desire to leave.
So why father, I ask… would I want to be King.

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POEM| #BringBackOurGirls By @PeterHaloway


Bring back our girls
We have waited too long
We have listened to your balderdash comments
And have endured immense impatience

Bring Back Our Girls
O! Nigeria, we cry unto thee
What haven’t we done?
From More Protests to More Letters and even many more petitions?

Like the thieve, they came
In camouflaged uniforms but in luxurious cars
To steal our future, our pride
To make mothers wail and to cry

Bring back our girls
Taken while having sweet nights in their hostels
To now become wives to syndicates
And forced to deny their religions

The Time has come, the 9th hour is here
We won’t sit and watch our future belittled
We will fight till the end,
Until this battle is won, We will never keep shut

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