14 Popular Excuses Men Give To Avoid Condom

    According to a recent research, 8 out of 10 Nigerian men do not
    use condoms. This was revealed by Bright Ekweremadu, the Managing Director of Society for Family Health, SFH. He said over 1.8billion sexual activities occur in
    Nigeria yearly, and 80% of them are unprotected.

    Mr Bright added that if Nigerian men were to use condoms, no supplier in the world would be able to afford the quantity of
    condoms they would need. *clears throat*
    like, really? Is that how much our brothers love to have sex?

Anyways, old news. If you’re a Nigerian woman, you already knew that.
But you also know that no matter how charming a guy is or how rich or how sexy, your health should be your first concern
when it comes to your sex life. You’d think many females know this but it so happens
that even the best of us get carried away by the moment.

Women have allowed men who use certain tactics and manner of speaking to dissuade from having protected sex. And that’s just
plain irresponsible in this present time when diseases like gonorrhoea are mutating or when people can get cervical cancer from HPV viruses.

Below are some of the excuses and tactics men use to avoid condoms.
They may sound like basic excuses but they have worked so well and are still working
for many womenfolk.

1. Intense Foreplay: He gets you in the mood, touches the right buttons, uses his tongue in places on your body you didn’t even know existed and all you can think of is going all the way. You want the full package badly; you can’t wait to do it and you throw caution to the wind. This is an old tactic men use. Be wary of it.

2. Just The Tip: This is one of the funniest I’ve heard and had personal experience with
in the past. The guy goes “baby, just the tip; I’m not going in, I swear.”
If you’re not going in, then what are you doing at the door. Smh. Please tell him to dress his little man up even if he’s just going to hang by the door.

3. ‘I am clean; you are clean’ Excuse: I really don’t know what ‘clean’ means but Nigerian men use that word a lot. I’m thinking it means he is disease-free and
she is disease-free and thus why bother about protection? This is a very vague excuse. Guys that use this don’t want to be
upfront about their health status because they are not sure they are really ‘clean’.

4. ‘I’ve been tested already Excuse’: Just like the above, he uses this to let you
know he is safe but here, he is bold enough to tell you that he has gone and done the test already and he is guaranteed to be disease-free. Sister, run from this particular guy. He’s even worse than the one above.

5. Emotional Blackmail: ‘So baby, you
don’t trust me?’ That’s a classic line. Or he just starts sulking when you insist on a condom. Using these emotional tactics,
he aims to bully you into parting your legs for him without any form of protection. What a dick!

6. Telling You You’re Too Sexy, He can’t Wait: Ah. the sweet-talker with the sugar-coated tongue. He’ll probably tell you that you’re the most beautiful woman he’s ever been with. Yimu. All na for mouth.
Don’t be fooled.

7. It Feels Better Skin to Skin: Of course it does feel better skin to skin. Everyone knows that; you don’t need a man reminding you. Also watch out for words from him that
describe how “sweet” his penis is and he wants you to have the full experience and a condom will stop pleasure. Tell him
sex is beyond the penetration; remind him of foreplay. Also add that he will
last longer if he uses the condom but first he should take his time with you during foreplay so you can get there at the same pace as he.

8. Birth Control is the Woman’s Priority. If a man tells you this, he is simply telling you that if anything happens in the future, he won’t be held culpable. To him, his job is
to have sex and ejaculate inside you; it’s your job to deal with the messy aspect afterwards.

9. ‘I won’t cum inside you’ Excuse: Heard that line before? Yeah, many guys use it. “Don’t worry baby; I’ll withdraw before I
cum” And that is how many women are now mothers with that excuse. The same guy,
after shooting off his load inside a woman will tell her she was too sexy and so he couldn’t help himself. Ladies, don’t be
deceived. Yes, many guys can control it and they’re experts at it but sometimes…just
sometimes… they can’t help it.

10. Lying on Top of you During Foreplay: Another old trick here. He takes full control
and his fingers work your genitals and you’re in cloud nine and… oops! His fingers have been replaced by something else and he’s
inside! You complain (weakly) and he hushes you and tells you to just go with the
flow. Smooth operator.

11. ‘I’m allergic to condoms’ Excuse: This is new. But I have heard it from my friends on two occasions. Maybe it was the same guy (I’ll have to ask). well, I thought I should add it here. Certainly, there are some people who are allergic to latex found in condoms
and get adverse reactions to it but the percentage is really low. In short such people
are hard to find. But why do I have a feeling that their number will soon increase in Naija?

12. ‘I’ll Marry you’ Excuse: Smh. If you believe this phrase then you believe anything.

13. ‘My size is not in the market’
Excuse: This guy’s peen is usually very big or small or narrow. Hence, he gives excuses why he shouldn’t use a condom. Don’t believe his
lying ass.

14. Direct Request: Now some guys will just tell you flat-out, with the straightest of faces that they ain’t down with condoms and they are not going to have sex with you wearing one. They will also add that they don’t use condoms at all and give you this
expression like they don’t give an ish what you think. It’s either their way or the highway. Go ahead and hurl their asses
out the door. In conclusion, simply stamp it in your mind that sex is not all about pleasure. If it was, then none of us would be here in this world.

The only reason you’re in existence, reading this, is because your parents chose to have sex without protection some years ago. But some people didn’t even get that lucky.
While others got knocked up, they got knocked down dead by diseases,especially HIV. There are also other STDs that
affect women of which men are carriers alone. You will do yourself well to protect
against them.

The wise woman of this age carries a condom around. She takes full responsibility for her sex life and health. She also knows how to say NO when the sex will not favor her. Please, don’t dull. Be part of the
change that alters the statistic I put above. Jokes apart, whether Nigerian men are good in bed or not, 8 out of 10 going unprotected is nothing to smile about.


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How do I dump my boyfriend?


Dear AfroReader!
I’m now a Graduate And My Boyfriend Is A Truck Driver, How Do I dump Him Without Hurting His Feelings?

Dear friends I am a 23year old female.
My parents died when i was 8 then I dropped out of school because no one could afford to pay my fees. I then met this guy when i was 14 and he sent me back to school. He was selling fruit then but still he was Able to pay my fees. He then got a job as a truck driver and sent me to University.

My problem is that i feel i can’t continue with this relationship because he is not my type, he isn’t fluent in English, he is a very short man, plus some other Personal stuffs.

I feel I have paid him back for his Good Deeds because I give him sex anytime and anywhere he wants. But now he can’t meet up to my demands.
How best can i tell him that he is not my type without hurting his feelings??
I am grateful that he sent me to school but i can’t be in a relationship with him anymore.
I want somebody in my own class not a truck driver.
Please help!

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12 Ways To Getting A Good Man For Marriage

How to Get a Good Man.
It is not easy for women to find a good man, and to be honest it is not easy for a man to find a good woman.

This is written from a man’s perspective to help
frustrated women that are sincerely looking for a good man but keep finding losers.

1. Be yourself. When you meet someone for
the first time, you may be tempted to be
someone you’re not, such as “putting on your
best face”. There’s nothing wrong with
wanting to make a good impression. However, it
is possible to take this too far and in turn repel
men. The same applies with myths about
dressing sexy and excessive flirtation. If you do
not respect your body, you will only attract
men who have a similar lack of respect for you
and your body, and a good man will find it more
difficult to take you seriously. Be yourself, and
a real man will respect you.

2. Have a life. Desperate, dramatic, and clingy
relationships are often rooted in a feeling of
need and desperation for a man to fill your life.
Even if you have low self-esteem, work over
time to build it. Pursue your goals, explore your
passions, have an interesting life, do things
that take you outside your boundaries. Don’t
put up a tough exterior to get over shyness;
gradually learn to build trust with a network of
people, so that your boyfriend isn’t the only
person you open up to and share your life with.
Also remember to trust yourself first. If you
can’t trust yourself, you are likely to not trust
your man.

3. Be relaxed and cool. Most guys hate it when
girls are possessive, moody, clingy, controlling,
etc. Learn to relax, and have fun. We all have
too much going on in our lives; don’t be the high
maintenance “drama queen”. Having a woman
around who makes life more difficult than
enjoyable will make a man lose interest. If you
do things like show genuine concern when the
man has had a rough day, it will earn his
respect and go toward winning him over and a
good man will reciprocate. Remember that most
men, especially the good ones, are looking for
someone with whom they can be comfortable,
and not someone who is always intense.

4. Realize differences in communication.
Men can often miss the subtle messages that
women send in their body language. Don’t judge
a guy because of this; it’s just the way men
are. Subtle body language like smiles only make a
man think that you might like him; he can’t
assume it means you’re interested without
being accused of being a self-absorbed jerk.
To drive the point home, gradually introduce
more “obvious” body language like playful
touches on the arm, playful banter and teasing,
winks, inside jokes, playfulness, or (when you
know him better) attempts to find a man’s
ticklish spots. (Don’t be afraid to kindly tease
him over minor things – women who pretend a
man is perfect are regarded as weak in their
eyes.) Flirting will not only show him you like him
enough to get that physical and playful, but
also help to break the physical barrier and
allow a man to feel more comfortable making a
few advances to you. But don’t forget to look
at how he is reacting to you.

5. Take a good look at yourself.
Psychological studies have shown that people
seek out partners to fill a psychological void.
Sometimes these voids are unhealthy; for
example a woman who is unhealthy will actually
seek out any man for the “high of seduction”
or to get attention and feel desirable. Look
inside yourself and ask yourself why you want
a man so badly, be truly honest with yourself,
and, if need be, talk to a therapist about this.
A woman with issues only attracts a guy with
issues as well, and a good, real man doesn’t
want anything to do with a woman who has
more issues than TIME magazine. If you want a
good, healthy relationship with a real man,
make certain that your own mental state and
intentions are healthy.

6.Drop the games.
Nobody likes a partner who plays “head games”. This is deceptive, and will hurt anybody who trusts you. Be real, don’t play games, and good men will respect you and may even pursue you. Playing head games will only make good men run away. Remember the communication thing? That is especially true here. If you like a guy, don’t push him away and act like you don’t like him. Tell him. Yes, there are some men who do like the thrill of the chase, but all good men genuinely want to
respect you and your wishes, and will leave
you alone if you insist on it. Remember, men
communicate directly; if you act like you don’t
want him, he’ll think you don’t want him.

7. Treat him with respect.
This is the most important thing of all. Men hate being around a woman who emasculates them, and a good man won’t take long to leave such a woman.
Don’t be afraid to help your man feel good
about himself. A little known secret is that
men are just as insecure as women. If he’s
with his friends or family be open to
opportunities to let your man look like “the
man”. It will win his love and respect.

8. Don’t be afraid to make a move. Let’s be
real: a good man doesn’t desperately need any
woman; he would like to meet a good woman. If
he’s a good man, he will appreciate the
compliment to his attractiveness, at the very
least. But remember that compliments are
usually given to acquaintances – people who
are intimate usually have a more honest
connection, with playful teasing and banter.
Think of good relationships between brothers
and sisters, parents and children, especially
couples – they’re always joking, laughing,
teasing, flirting in a positive way. A woman
who is always complimenting may simply be
boring and look desperate. Even if you are old-
fashioned and never want to be the woman
who asks a man for a date, you can still go out
of your way to talk to him, and arrange to be
with him. Don’t overdo this, however; unless he
is already attracted to you before the
encounter, the more obvious it is that you’ve
put a ton of time into the encounter without
his direct encouragement, the more desperate
and less attractive you look. Work on building
attraction first.

9. Respect yourself. If you say no, he should
stop. If he doesn’t stop, leave. Don’t ever be
uncomfortable saying no. Don’t go against your
morals to try to keep a guy. If you feel this is
necessary, then either he’s not a good man, or
he is a good one but simply isn’t a good match
for you specifically (e. g. he is currently
“playing the field” and is up front and honest
about it, but you’re looking for an exclusive
relationship). Don’t be uncomfortable saying
yes, either. If you feel the time is right, believe
in your worth and don’t worry that you’re
“giving yourself away.” You respect yourself
and you’re confident that he’ll come back for
more! A man who doesn’t respect you in the
morning never properly respected you to begin
with, and a man who doesn’t respect your
wishes to wait is too impatient to make a good
partner. Either way, find someone else.

10. Follow the Golden Rule. That means apply
the same rules to yourself that you’d apply to
others, including him. Real men do in fact notice
this; they just don’t scream it out. For example,
if he tells you he has a girlfriend and things are
not working out, Stop! and think ladies that
this could be a “test” on how you would handle
the situation, so stand your ground and cut off
communication (hint: “Golden Rule”). Second
example: if you do want to try finding his
ticklish spots, then don’t complain one bit if he
tries finding yours in return. Don’t go on about
how you “don’t NEED no man!” or about “men
this, men that” if you don’t want him treating
you the same way. DO, on the other hand,
treat him–and others–with respect, dignity,
and honor. Others will notice, too, and who
knows–if they know you want a good, real
man but don’t yet have one, they just might
introduce you to one!

11. Don’t Be clingy. This means, don’t show that
you love this person by being near them all the
time. They need their space and they need to
know that you don’t need to follow them
everywhere they go. Most of all, they need to
know that you have your own life.

12. Do some helpful research. If you want to
read more on how to get a man, there’s a good
e-book that could be useful:

A good way to meet someone is through other
people, or activities you enjoy. Some advice about
being genuine: Don’t take up hobbies or habits just to meet someone. If you meet him in a bar, he’s liable to be a drinker. If you meet him in a house of worship, he’s likely to be religious. First impressions are important, so if his first impression of you is “party girl”, it will be difficult to change. The same thing goes for if his first impression of you is “uptight girl” or “mind-game girl”.

That’s all pals, be sure to do these and you will give testimonies in church 🙂

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Love and Sex- Are they related?

Love and Sex – Never Related

Hmmm, don’t read this article if you are -16, -18 or -21 in some countries. Hahahaha, just kidding.
Alotta guys been on my nerves and alotta babes been submitting nervous complains on this topic. Guys say sex is a most in a relationship, Girls say, “kilode, Na by force” But I say “Which way?” 😕

According to @WordThesaurus, Sex is a persons gender, sorry not that, sex is the act of a man doing the adult thing with a woman (incase any kid is still reading, that’s why I didn’t define in full) while love is an emotional connection between two people (can be you and your mum in agape love :-))

So, wetin emotion got to do with sex? Is sex an emotional act? Never, according to my blogging mentor, Kendell F Person of The Public Blogger in a blog post calls it an exercise. Yes, an exercise, you lose over 500 calories in a 10 mins sex bout. So wetin sex and love come get. Simple because its believed to be performed by those in love, does it make it a requirement?

Now let’s check this, Did Adam have sex with Eve before loving her? Lai lai!! If no be that fruit he chop, he for no know say she get breast self. So why do adams descendants now crave for what their GodFather didn’t? *Una Stingy*

If a guy falls in love because he’s seen a lady shake her ass while working, sorry, na sex he dey find, but if he’s moved because of something more natural, more inside, like a driving force, then its love. So which one control you guys? Ehn? Answer me!!! You see, they can’t talk.

Also, you babes get fault, since the ‘commodity’ is now up for grab anywhere, men don’t value love again instead they value the ‘bed exercise’ which makes innocent men like us look guilty in-front of timid sisters. Ask a sister out, she say, “I look like ashawo for your eyes?” Who call her ashawo? 😯

In Conclusion, Sex is not love, its just an exercise, so if your bf tells you he won’t cheat once you have sex, na lie. Love is not sex too, in the sense that if you love a guy doesn’t mean you should spread legs for him, NO! NO!! NO!!! But if you can’t help it, stay safe, use protection. That’s how far I can go. Meanwhile let me hear your opinion by leaving a comment below. For you, Is sex required in a true love relationship? Have your say below.

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Must Guys Prostrate For Their Wives at Traditional Weddings?

Oh My God, Why, why and why? Why must we prostrate in traditional weddings? This has been so disturbing to me, so me I go prostrate for babe abi? And in her mind, she’ll be thinking “See his head :-)”

Like one of my padi for life said, the day he was prostrating for his own wife, the babe was smiling and he was like “If I catch you for bed, You go know!” 😉 hahahahaha

Well as for me, I’ve been reasoning it, be like say i no go call too much relatives o, and all those bullshit “alaga iduro” women that sing with chicken voices are not allowed for me ooo *vex mode*

So guys, you like to prostrate for your wife? Babes, you like seeing us prostrate abi? Abeg have your say.

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